“I’m not good enough. I think I won’t go for that job promotion.”😞
“I’m unsure if my friends want to hang out; they may think I’m boring.”
Do you have thoughts like this in your head? You’re not alone, bro. These thoughts affect all of us from time to time. You can be doubting your work performance, if your friends really like you or whether your crush has mutual feelings towards you.
But here’s a little secret just between us. 🙂 You have to start believing in yourself before other people can start having confidence in you. Doubting yourself won’t help you advance in life, but it will present more setback.
The good news is: this confidence is all found within you. It just takes a bit of self-discovery. That’s why we’re here to help you increase your self-confidence by 1,000 times more! Let’s dive in now. 🤿
How to Be A Confident Man?
Confident men are people who take charge and command attention in a room full of people. Any man can be confident, it’s just a matter of being yourself. Don’t try to be someone you are not. 🙂
No la, you don’t need to be a samseng to become a confident man. In fact, many guys dress like nerds these days – hot and confident nerds. It’s still a legit trend in Malaysia! If you love this look, it certainly wouldn’t hurt for you to experiment with this fashion sense. 🤓
Let’s check out these 5 points on how to be a confident man:
Hallmark Traits of A Confident Man
- Positive Self-talk
Our words create our emotions, and our emotions create our world. 🌎 If you don’t feel confident, it’s mostly because of the stories you tell yourself.
Pay attention to what you tell yourself in your head. Whenever you catch yourself saying negative things to yourself, quickly correct yourself and replace it with something positive.
There are always positive things to say about ourselves. Try recalling the times your friends or family have said something nice about you and hold on to those compliments.
This doesn’t mean you should ignore your negative traits. But you should focus on your positives, and at the same time, work on your negatives. That’s the mindset of a confident man. 🧠
Whilst working on your negatives, avoid comparing yourself to others. The more you compare yourself to others, the more you’ll envy them.
- Communicate Good Body Language
As you walk into a room, stand with an upright posture and never slump your shoulders. It’s not only bad for your posture, but it gives a good impression to the people around you, especially if you’re going for a job interview. 💼
Always maintain eye contact when you speak to people and avoid looking at the floor when someone is speaking to you. Instead, your body language should show you’re interested in what they have to say.
You can do that by maintaining eye contact, listening attentively, and then follow up with a thoughtful question or answer. A confident man is secure and confident enough to respond sincerely and thoughtfully.
Another tip to communicate good body language is to avoid fidgeting. It’s an obvious sign of anxiety and nervousness. You can appear more confident and assertive by fidgeting less. 😬
Nervous movements are also distracting as it draws the listener’s attention away from what you’re saying, and subconsciously forces them to focus on your body movements.
- Identify Your Accomplishments & Achievements
If you feel unconfident or uncertain about an upcoming challenge, try picturing a recent accomplishment or a time where you’ve handled a similar issue.
Your self-confidence increases as you achieve more in life. So, you can use these achievements to make positive affirmations about yourself and tune out any negative self-talk. 🙅♂️
If you feel like you haven’t achieved much, you can start boosting your confidence by setting daily goals for yourself. It doesn’t matter whether the goals you set are big or small, you just need to get started.
You can listen to motivational speakers to inspire yourself to strive for your goals and dreams. Some of our favourite motivational speakers are Nick Vujicic and Robert Kiyosaki. 🎤 We want to encourage you to never give up on your goals, no matter how big or small. Sedikit-sedikit, lama-lama jadi bukit, kan?
Setting personal goals can be anything such as hitting the gym or scoring high results in your exams if you’re still in university. If you’re already working, you can also set goals to upskill yourself by mastering more skills and abilities to serve your company better.
Practice setting goals on a daily basis and you’ll learn how to be a confident man better each day. ⛅
- Develop A Thick Skin
If you’re still wondering how to be a confident man, a great way is to learn how to develop a thick skin. It may be hard at first, but with practice you can learn this useful skill in life.
Whether you’re being criticised in the workplace or at home, don’t take it to heart. Some people just enjoy criticising others, but you can use this opportunity to grow and learn to respond to criticism better. That’s how you develop a thick skin.
Being a confident man doesn’t mean brushing your feelings under the rug or becoming an emotionless robot. 🤖 We’re human beings, we feel emotions. We can feel happy, sad, excited, or hurt.
After someone has hurt you, take some time to manage your feelings by filtering their words to determine whether they said something true, or if it was said as a personal insult. You can also seek emotional support and validation from a trusted friend to address your emotions.
Never ever respond to criticism by criticising the person back. A confident man doesn’t need to put others down because he is already confident in himself – It’s a sign of true emotional strength! 💪
Once you’ve mastered this art, you’ll never have to worry about how to be a confident man again.
- When You Look Good, You’ll Feel Good
Wear smart and clean clothes that make you feel good about yourself. Tony Stark from The Avengers, Harvey Specter from Suits, and James Bond. What do these men have in common? 🤷♂️
Answer: They know how to dress with style. Right now, you must be thinking: “Gila ke?! Baru start kerja nak saya beli baju mahal?!!” 😱
Bro, you don’t need to buy expensive clothes like these people. At Emmer Zecna, we make shirts and slacks that are stylish yet comfortable, especially our bestselling Bamboo Fabric Shirt.
On top of value for money, here’s why our Bamboo Fabric Shirt is so different:
Designed for Asian fit, our shirts have the softest, most comfortable bamboo fabric 🎋 you’ll ever find. You’ll never have to worry about rough, uncomfortable fabric brushing against your skin again as you go about your day.
Our Bamboo Fabric Shirt is also stretchable enough to adapt to the wearer’s movements and have a unique ability to spring back into its natural state, regardless of whichever way you stretch. Now, you can stay neat and tidy throughout the entire day.
Hate ironing? So do we! Make life easier for yourself and get an easy-iron shirt at Emmer Zecna. Spend less time at the ironing board and more time pursuing your personal goals and career. 🏃♂️
Here’s why our slacks are different from others:
Normal black isn’t good enough. Our slacks are dyed with Jet Black – the darkest black – designed with a metallic finish. Darker, richer, and more intense than normal black, it’s what you need to stand out from the pack. 💎
Our fabric is mixed with natural cotton yarn, highly capable of preventing the fabric’s colours from fading quickly. Throw away your worries about your slacks shrinking in size. Our material is ‘shrink-proof’ – perfectly suitable for multiple washes.
Malaysia’s hot weather is unbearable ☀️, don’t you agree? Most of Emmer Zecna’s slacks are made with a breathable layer to release trapped heat and moisture. You can now go about your day without being soaked in sweat!
If you’re interested, you can check out our Bamboo Fabric Shirt here, or browse for our slacks here. They come in a wide variety of colours and 3 different cuttings: modern, regular, and slim fit.
With that said, we hope we’ve cleared any doubts you’ve had on how to be a confident man.
Go Forth With Confidence!
Live life without limits. There are positives to be found in everything, including yourself. Never let anyone tell you that you’re not good enough.
Chart your own path and own your confidence as a Malaysian man starting today. You have so much to offer, don’t live life letting others define who you should be. Stand tall and proud today, and boldly face all that life throws at you.